How to Support Your Loved Ones This Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day is a time to express love to those you care about. But for some, it may be a difficult time grieving the loss of a loved one; thinking of their loved one may stir up feelings of sadness and emptiness. What can you say or do to help them through a difficult time?

If someone close to you is struggling with grief this Valentine’s Day, here are some conversation drivers and ideas of how you can show support.

Share Stories or Anecdotes About the Loved One

If you knew the loved one, share stories and memories with the griever, and allow them time to share their own memories. Sharing out loud can help the griever heal their pain, while also keeping the loved one’s memory alive in a positive way. Even if you did not know the deceased, maybe you remember some things the griever shared with you about their loved one. Knowing you are there to share positive memories can be an impactful healing tool.

Encourage Them to Keep the Memory Alive Through Actions

There are many ways to honor the memory of someone you’ve lost – like taking part in that person’s favorite hobby or activity. For example, if the loved one enjoyed fishing, knitting or movies, you can encourage the griever to take part in one of those activities to honor the deceased and keep their memory alive. Taking part can help the griever feel close to the loved one and create a healthy bond through those interests or activities.

Be There for Them and Know Their Needs

The most important thing you can do is be there for the griever. Everyone grieves differently. Whether they need a shoulder to cry on, an open ear, or just some company, identify what they need and make sure you are an active participant. Sometimes it can be hard to say the right thing when consoling someone. Refer to this list of conversation starters if you feel you need a starting point.